Saying You're Sorry? How, Is What Matters
Several years ago I wrote a piece on forgiveness (it won a statewide first place award, but anyway), and now a new study says how you say you're sorry is the most important part of it. It used to be hard to say I'm sorry. I would do anything to avoid it. But now it comes a lot more naturally. Maybe it's because I have to say it just about all the time? Hope not. But when I had a child, I found myself saying it a lot. After screaming at him about bringing his dishes into the kitchen because I was tired (like last night). Or when I accused him of misplacing the remote, then found I was the one who did it. Or especially, when I take out my day's frustrations on him. I've found a really neat thing happens, when I do it, though. I feel peace. But the study hammers home the point that the way you apologize is key. According to the study, the reason saying it the right way works so well is that the the apology makes t...