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I suppose I should have known  from the start when he signed my first birthday card, "from, me." Alas, my husband is just not the romantic type.  No champagne and red carpet of roses on our anniversary (and our 20th comes up in March!).  No trip to Kauai  on my 60th (which also comes up this year).  His idea of a romantic evening is lobster -- in front of the TV. So that's why I consider myself one of those living in a marriage of "resigned acceptance."  According to Daniel Jones, who edits the "Modern Love" column every Sunday in The New York Times, we're probably the happiest of the married. Say what?  His point is that most of us see the passion sputter out of long-term marriages and what is left is often either resentment or this acceptance of how things are and just being grateful for it.  As he puts it, with his headline, "When Good Enough is Great." Now I'll admit I hoped through the actual 30-plus years we've been...

It's been said we're more afraid of it than death.  People don't sleep for nights before it.  It may even have broken up some marriages. What is it? Public speaking. But now a new study is saying that, instead of calming down -- taking deep breaths, imagining a beach with cooling breezes and gently lapping waves, a margarita beside us -- we should, instead, before a speech -- ride a roller coaster, see a scary movie, find a crowd and start the Harlem Shake.  Get excited, is the new mantra. People who tell themselves to get excited rather than trying to relax can improve their performance during anxiety-inducing activities such as public speaking and math tests, according to a study published by the American Psychological Association, newswise.com reports. "Anxiety is incredibly pervasive. People have a very strong intuition that trying to calm down is the best way to cope with their anxiety, but that can be very difficult and ineffective," the Web site q...