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Does Popularity in Middle School Backfire Later?

I was never very popular. For a short time I got to sit at the “it” table in high school and then I didn't. But it was only years later, when rereading (for some reason) the class president's entry in my yearbook, realizing that he had always liked me (he liked me, he really liked me! OK, so I'm no Sally Field). But popular I was not. Now a new study has just come out that says that if you're hot when you're 13, you're probably not, 10 years later. I'm not quite sure that's true. I know a lot of popular people from my high school who went on to become huge successes – a girl from my creative writing class who everybody fought to sit next to since first grade is now a veterinarian, and a boy, an incredible hunk, is a cowboy, riding herd in the Southwest (really). The New York Times quotes an expert as saying that, as fast-moving middle-schoolers, these kids are driven by a heightened longing to impress friends. And that, they...

Love the Bullies. Really.

It was one of the first things I worried about when my son started middle school. Skinny and shy and quiet at the time, and a bit of a computer nerd, I feared he would be bullied. To my delight (and surprise), he became a different kid in middle school – out-going, happy, and “chatty,” as one teacher put it.  Even what some would call popular.  Popular?  My kid? He was one of the first sixth graders to have a girlfriend (but young love, being what it is, she broke up with him over the summer). Maybe I’ve been lucky because I have a boy and from what I’ve seen and heard, bullying seems to be hugely rampant among girls (although we did have the heartbreaking story of Bart Palosz the second day of school). Two 12-year-olds have been arrested for tormenting a girl who ended her life in Miami recently, and in Stamford , one has been arrested for bullying another girl into talking about committing suicide. Twelve-year-olds? What is this? Are kids...